Attention Deficit vs. The Unknown

Why can't I fit in class? I am wondering too much and I am wandering off alot. What am I doing?

ADHD. What is it and how does this develop in children? This usually takes several steps to determine and these include sleep deprivation, anxiety, depression alongside many disorders which can impact a child's learning, social development and physical or mental health. Understanding the influences that affects a child's behaviour is also one vital step to realising how you, as a parent can assist a therapist or teacher in the process. Here comes the unknown, there may be times that you will not know whether your child will be able to comprehend their own disability and it is up to you to educate them on this. 

The positive ways to do this is to teach them about how ADHD is not who they are, it is their behaviour therefore, it is important to acknowledge the child's behaviour first by consistently saying "I dont appreciate your behaviour right now". This will enable the child to truly undserstand that their learning disability is not permanently tatooed on their head. There is enough going on in there already. 

The unknown is determined by an unforeseen reaction by us as adults which a child may not be ready for. They will wonder why the adult is hovering and wander when they can tell they are being put under a microscope due to humiliation. 

What can we do to change this idea of making a child feel insecure? There are 7 easy steps constructed by myself in past experiences with children who suffer from these anxieties. These can also prevent high cases of childhood depression, also and in turn bed wetting, sleep deprivation and sudden erratic meltdowns.

1. Always reassure yourself and your child 

We will have a good day today 

We will have a good day today because...

We will have a good day today because we are going to this together. 

2. Provide information about the matter at hand 

There are many books to read with your child related to ADHD. Most notably :

Karin Roach - The feel Good with ADHD

3. Do not let the disorder get into your mind as a parent, focus on strategies to improve 

Easier said than done but positive thinking can go hand in hand with reality checks such as when you feel as though you are alone but always have the determination to self -motivate which will also be witnessed by your child even if you think it is not, keep going!

4. Try to attend as many support groups that can enable you to vent 

These can be found in libraries and your local authority 

5. Please check for more informative events regarding the educational background of the disorder

Therapies and very specific behaviour schools that can support you in your local comunity. 

6. Be ok with the today being totally different to yesterday

Changes is literally apart of the brain of an ADHD person, it is perfectly fine that yesterday there was no stress and today there is!

7. Write a behaviour and reaction diary log of your experiences

but also ask your child to write what emotion they are feeling. 

Try these steps daily for 4 weeks!