Mind over Matter : Our children Matter

Mind over Matter : Our children Matter

Child Development Theory 

To begin with, the physical and mental well being of a child was not at the top of the list on most researchers minds before the 20th century. They were often viewed as little adults so studies based on child cognitive and social skills was very slim. Moreover, attention on baby, child and adolescent development theories grew; which were then divised into specified age groups. Freud, Erikson, Piaget, Watson and Skinner were pioneers in developmental psychology, in particular. They dedicated their research to the impacts that surroundings and circumstance can have on the brain; providing information/solutions on how primary caregivers can raise children to become well rounded adults. 


Nature versus Nurture debate 

Over many years, theorists have discussed how does a situation determine the development of a child's social skill and if a negative event determine's how they communicate as an adult. Also, does the way in which we are taught as kids how to interact with others have an overall impact on our entire life? It is argued that Vygotsky believed this was the very fact. Parents and families are the key to unlocking their children's potiential in the world. This can be explored and tweaked for your own individual purposes (due to current circumstances and/or your child has a developmental disorder). It is believed that when it comes to nature, it could be far more effective than nurture due to nature being inherent. In conclusion, this debate can only depend on what you make out of what you have observed or learnt as a child and the desire to use these lessons later on in life. 

Parental Power 

Are parents are the main source to building a child's physical, social, mental health? To an extent. This is used primarily for informative reasons; please note that this may be true however this is highly critisized due to families who have socio-economic factors inluding environment, toxic stress, forms of abuse such as neglect, housing, limited access to food and clothing. If you are fortunate enough to not experience these, then having a strong family foundation has its benefits. These benefits include having positive role models, having a positive, active and sociable upbringing. The power of parenting can be used but not abused; reasons being about the generational aspect of learning. What a parent might believe they know about the world is not entirely true, it is all about perspective because society is always changing. 


Your child matters 

Emotional intelligence is becoming less of a taboo subject; Mindfulness has had global success in education. Citing Karen Bracey Developing Emotional Intelligence in children 

Knowing and recognizing your feelings is vital : 

  • Can you express your feelings with appropriate words, and do you model this for your children?
  • Are you tuned into your child's emotions, and can you help them understand and identify what they are feeling?
  • Do you help them label their feelings and try to understand the reason they may be feeling that way?
  • Do you listen to what they are saying and how they are feeling and validate those feelings as real?

Directing your emotions toward accomplishing goals and overcoming obstacles.

  • Do you help your child gain confidence in situations that are challenging?
  • Do you share in the interests of your child and help them explore and develop their skills and knowledge in these interests?
  • Do you provide age-appropriate choices for your child, so they can practice making decisions and gain confidence in their ability?

Uncertainty and disrupted routines are scary and disorienting for everyone.

  • What can you do as a family to re-motivate and energize your household?
  • What would be a big project your children would get excited about that you can create and work to feel productive and build skills and a sense of accomplishment?

Being sensitive to others' feelings and perspectives.

  • Do you help point out how others might be feeling in real life, as well as in books and TV shows?
  • Do you use opportunities to set an example as to how to connect with another person and show compassion?
  • Do you teach your child how to treat you and other family members with compassion?

Talk to your children about how this situation impacts family members in different ways, then with your children work to understand and help others feel better. In doing so, it gives your child a sense of control and understanding of the importance of helping others.

Being socially aware in managing your own emotions and responding to others.

  • Do you focus on making sure your child builds secure, healthy attachments with other children and adults?
  • Do you help to explain what to expect or what went wrong with an interaction and how they might handle it the next time?
  • Do you demonstrate strong emotional connections by showing empathy and compassion in daily life?
  • Do you participate in age-appropriate play to help your child understand important concepts such as taking turns, and being a gracious loser or winner?


There is a range of self-help books for adults based on understanding feelings and emotions. Also, age appropriate short films and animation for your children. Encouraging your child to voice their an opinion is recommendable, their views exist in today's world because this is currently their world! It can be a frustrating moment for you as an adult or a bruise to the ego when your child does not want to hear you but this is a process. Reactions to a disagreement is an essential part of their personal, socio-emotional growth and development. 



28 December 2021

HI there! I have been working with families for over 15 years and have a resume that consists of various amounts of experiences. I have had great success with babies from 6 months old to young adults aged 21. Notably, these include working closely with parents, teachers, therapists in and out from schools to homes to enable the support necessary for children, young people and family members.

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