" I say "NO" to my daughter, who insists on wearing slippers even though it is raining outside. It does not work. It becames a battle "
" whenever I say "NO" against to his request, he starts to cry, usually i give up and do what he wants "
Example "NO" Way
Child : Mom, I want to eat ice cream
Mom : No, you can not
Child : Yes, I can
Mom : Dinner is ready
Child : I want to eat ice cream
Mom : I said "NO"
Child : I will not eat dinner, I want ice cream ( Whinging )
"YES" Way
Child : Mom, I want to eat ice cream
Mom : of course
Child : give me
Mom : Yes, I will give you after dinner.
Come on, dinner is ready.
Child : May I eat ice cream after finishing my dinner ?
Mom : yes, which one would you like to eat ? soup or chicken ?
Actually ,mother's opinion is same in both cases, only words are different , so result too ...
When a child hears "NO" does not likely to listen rest of the conversation. They use varios strategies to reach their aims :)
HERE ARE SOME STRATEGIES
1) Give A Definite Answer
Children needs to feel reliable about daily, weekly future plans. Frequently hearing " I am not sure...., well ......, probably ......, maybe ....." can frustrate tjem. generally they will try to turn it into " YES" by whining , asking again and again , begging
2) Explaining
If you really mean "NO" explain the reasons without using "NO" . explaining the reason and results may help you. Instead of "NO" do not run
" You know the weather is cold and the roads are icy, we can all slide down, Let us walk slowly and carefully .
3) Keep Calm
Being tired of working, traffic , char it would be hard to be enduring, patient. Take a deep breath avoid yelling, shouting, having an angry manner. Assure that negative words will make the problem harder.
4) Ignore crying , whining
Many times children do not emjoy your refuse. As a part of their strategies they may use crying and whining to be succesful :) Best way to come over this position you can calmly say " I really do not understand what you mean. when your crying finishes, then i will listen you "
5) Parental Consistency
So, you have worked hard to give up saying "NO" but how about your partner ? What if your partner disagrees ?
research show that it is not only important for an individual parent to have consistency, it is important for two parents to be consistent with each other , each time .
6) Offer Choices
Offering choices helps children feel powerful and confident when they have control in daily routines . Offering Choices distract them and may rescue you from a crisis.
7) Be sure that you use "YES" more often than "NO"
It is essential changing our habits while children grow. It should not be forgotten that while we are raising our children, we also grow and learn :)
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